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Ladies and gentlemen, I am pleased to announce the launch of Episode 3 of Another Moment With You! You can download it (as well as Episodes 1 and 2) at the following link:


Let me know if you have any problems, and I always welcome feedback!

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*Screams Internally* Finally its out!

*Screams so loud that cops show up and question me but I shoo them away with donuts* this is great

I just want to say you are a brilliant writer. Making Natsuki's father a severely broken man (instead of a solely abusive one) and showing how the consequences can be just as drastic; it was heart wrenching. Kudos upon kudos to you! This addition was well worth the wait.

[Question] If I download Episode 3, will I be able to play all the episodes from there or do I have to download them separately?

You will get all 3 when you download Episode 3.

ah here we go again, i played eps 1,2, and 3 instantly after release and it never dissapoint me. espicially this ep 3 makes me weeping all night because finally i know what happen to natsuki after ep 2 ending makes me pumped up for episode 4

Just started this, just curious, will there be any more episodes, or is this the final release?

The current plan is to have two more episodes. One focused on Monika, and one for a wrap-up.

Spotify knows when to play the right songs for the moment. In the end when Natsuki kissed MC in ep3 "Still Loving You" by Scorpions started playing. Well, it was about 5 seconds before the moment, but good timing, I would say.

Nice! I was originally unsure of having Natsuki kiss MC here, but I honestly got tired of writing "They almost kiss but they don't" scenes, so I decided to go for it.

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So uhh.. I know its been two years and all so I don't know if you'll see this but is there hope for more episodes? I just played all 3 and really enjoyed it.

Wow, 2 years. Yes, I am working (slowly) on a Monika-focused Episode 4. Life hit me pretty hard after Episode 3 (job problems and the pandemic), but I have picked it back up and am currently writing the ending. I want to have it out this year.

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The 23 (13+10) songs Taylor Swift needs to sing on her 'Eras' tour, in our wildest dreams

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It's been one too many cruel summers since Taylor Swift last went on tour. Five years (!) to be exact. Long story short, it was a bad time.

Thankfully that era has come to an end with her, well, "Eras" tour set to launch March 17 at  State Farm Stadium in Glendale, Arizona (fun fact: She launched her Reputation Tour in 2018 at the same venue when it was known as University of Phoenix Stadium). She'll travel all over the country, from Phoenix to Philadelphia to Los Angeles. 

But what exactly will the superstar sing? With 10 studio albums and several rerecordings, there are almost too many songs to choose from.

But if we had it our way – and we do, because an editor approved this piece – here's what she'd sing and in what order.

'Lavender Haze' ('Midnights')

'cruel summer' ('lover'), 'sparks fly' ('speak now'), 'delicate' ('reputation'), 'you belong with me' ('fearless').

The "Eras" tour must begin with her current era, so " Midnights " debut track " Lavender Haze " makes the most sense. Can't you see her strutting out of a luscious, lavender haze whispering "meet me at midnight?" She should quickly pivot to "Cruel Summer," which (rudely) never became a single and never made it on Swift's now-defunct "Loverfest" tour due to the pandemic. An ever-changing chameleon, "Sparks Fly" will follow with the crowd belting "drop everything now" at the top of their lungs. She'll slow things down with Reputation 's "Delicate," then get the crowd screaming again with " You Belong With Me ." Is it cool that we said all that?

'Cornelia Street' ('Lover')

'bejeweled' ('midnights'), 'champagne problems' ('evermore'), 'i did something bad' ('reputation'), 'love story' ('fearless').

Even Grammy-winning pop stars need breaks between sets. When we return to the land of Swift, she'll bring out the guitar and deliver a heart-wrenching acoustic version of "Cornelia Street," then quickly toss it offstage to make the whole place shimmer with "Bejeweled." Cue a costume change into a ballgown and a set change to a staircase for Evermore 's "Champagne Problems" that'll have you screaming "she would've made such a lovely bride." That melancholy morphs into an energetic "I Did Something Bad" followed by an optimistic "Love Story." Baby, we are saying yes to all these eras at once.

'Out of the Woods' ('1989')

'you're on your own, kid' ('midnights'), 'state of grace' ('red'), 'august' ('folklore'), 'our song' ('taylor swift').

Somehow, "1989" hasn't made an appearance on this setlist yet, but she changes that with a welcome "Out of the Woods" (and a guest appearance by Jack Antonoff, no less). She continues the "Midnights" train with sleeper hit "You're On Your Own, Kid" followed by " Red " leader "State of Grace." We slip away like a moment in time with "August," and just before you're about to take a nap, the opening notes of "Our Song" take you back to the mid-aughts. It's late and your mama don't know!

'Wildest Dreams' ('1989')

'miss americana and the heartbreak prince' ('lover'), 'blank space' ('1989'), 'all too well - 10 minute version' ('red - taylor's version'), 'anti-hero' ('midnights').

Time to get wistful as the night winds down. "Wildest Dreams" blends perfectly into the "Lover" track "Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince" that also never got the single treatment (in case we haven't mentioned, justice for "Lover" ). If you haven't already lost your voice by this point, you will by the end of "Blank Space." Boys only want love if it's torture, and Swift definitely didn't warn you before launching into the 10-minute " All Too Well ." But the concert can't end on such a sour note. Put an "X" next to "Anti-Hero" on your setlist bingo card – no problems in sight tonight, no matter what Swift sings.

Encore: 'Mirrorball' ('Folklore')

'we are never ever getting back together' ('red'), 'would've could've should've' ('midnights - 3 a.m. edition).

And you thought the night was over?! A few more Swiftie surprises: She'll show you every version of yourself with " Mirrorball " as dozens of disco balls float above the stage. You'll completely lose your voice for real with "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together," then scream-whisper-cry to the "Midnights 3 a.m. Edition" track " Would've Could've Should've ." God rest our soul – we're always in our Swift era.

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Life can be unpredictable but we must learn to stop and smell the roses every once in a while.

Life isn’t always easy and the grass on the other side can look greener. We often fail to appreciate the best moments while chasing after greener pastures.

Being grateful and appreciating what you have doesn’t mean you can’t chase your dreams, but that you don’t ignore the blessings and love that surrounds you. At every instance, in life, there is something to thankful for. Family, friends, love are the essential parts of life that make it worth living and working hard for.

For more related content take a look at good vibes quotes and live in the moment quotes .

Life Moments Quotes

Here are some of the best happy moments quotes for you to enjoy.

1. “A happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people don't allow the happy moment, because they're so busy trying to get a happy life.”

— Esther Hicks.

2. “Find that one person in life who makes you love more than any other person could possibly make you love, you treat every day together as if it were your last. You cherish every moment.”

— Sebastian Cole.

3. “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

— Morrie Schwartz.

4. “Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.”

— Omar Khayyam.

5. “Use your precious moments to live life fully every single second of every single day.”

— Marcia Wieder.

6. “Life is a succession of moments, to live each one is to succeed.”

— Corita Kent.

7. “Mindfulness is not chasing the moment but sipping the nectar of the moment.”

― Amit Ray.

8. “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.”

— Eckhart Tolle.

9. “Life is always more beautiful and worth living when you are capable of enjoying the beauty of nature.”

—Munia Khan.

10. “If you would be loved, love, and be loveable.”

— Benjamin Franklin.

11. “The best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it.”

— Richard Bach.

12. “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

— Mark Twain.

13. “ You only live once ; but if you do it right, once is enough.”

— Mae West.

14. “No matter how dark the moment, love, and hope are always possible.”

— George Chakiris.

15. “Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”

— Dr. Seuss.

16. “When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life or the life of another.”

— Helen Keller.

Memorable Moments Quotes

Find below great precious moments quotes that you can relate to.

17. “The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”

— Dolly Parton.

18. “Fill your life with as many moments and experiences of joy and passion as you humanly can.”

— Marcia Weider.

19. “There is a great beauty in little things .”

— Mehmet Murat ildan.

20. “We never remember days, only moments.”

— Cesare Pavese.

21. “There is no end to the adventures we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open.”

— Jawaharlal Nehru.

22. “ At the end of the day , if I can say I had fun, it was a good day.”

— Simone Biles.

23. “Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.”

— Khalil Gibran.

24. “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”

— Marcus Aurelius.

25. “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched — they must be felt with the heart.”

26. “Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but sometimes, playing a poor hand well.”

— Josh Billings.

27. “Sometimes the moments that challenge us the most, define us.”

— Deena Kastor.

Best Moments Quotes

Here are some great quotes about life-changing moments and other important aspects of life.

28. “I set out on a journey of love, seeking truth, peace and understanding. I am still learning.”

— Muhammad Ali.

29. “Philosophy always requires something more, requires the eternal, the true, in contrast to which even the fullest existence as such is but a happy moment.”

— Soren Kierkegaard.

30. “You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.”

— Michael Jordan.

31. “Life isn't a matter of milestones, but of moments.”

— Rose Kennedy .

32. “Life is short. Kiss slowly, laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly.”

— Paulo Coelho.

33. “At the end, one didn't remember life as a whole but as just a string of moments.”

— David Levien.

34. “Nothing is permanently perfect. But there are perfect moments and the will to choose what will bring about more perfect moments.”

— Mary Balogh.

35. “A person’s last moments are an important thing. You can’t choose how you’re born, but you can choose how you die.”

— Haruki Murakami.

36. “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”

37. “The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large.”

— Confucius.

38. “We make patterns, we share moments.”

— Jenny Downham.

39. “A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved, except in memory.”

— Leonard Nimoy.

40. “Sometimes, it’s the same moments that take your breath away that breathe purpose and love back into your life.”

— Steve Maraboli.

Capturing Moments Quotes

Moments quotes are inspiring.

Here is a list of some of the best quotes about capturing moments and creating something great to look back at!

41. “Cherish every moment with those you love at every stage of your journey.”

— Jack Layton.

42. “Live in the present and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering.”

— Ida Scott Taylor.

43. “I want to take all our best moments, put them in a jar, and take them out like cookies and savor each one of them forever.”

— Crystal Woods.

44. “Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future.”

— Earl Nightingale.

45. “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

—Thornton Wilder.

46. “Everyone has the desire to freeze a wonderful moment they are in, just like a camera, and stay in that moment forever!”

― Mehmet Murat ildan.

47. “Your memory is the glue that binds your life together, everything you are today is because of your amazing memory.”

— Kevin Horsley.

48. “Strange, how the best moments of our lives we scarcely notice except in looking back.”

— Joe Abercrombie.

49. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out.”

—Robert Collier.

50. “Live life to its fullest or it may seem like you died young.”

— James Wattersmith.

51. “We do not know the true value of our moments until they have undergone the test of memory.”

— Georges Duhamel.

52. “I find happiness comes from numerous sources in my life. Most often, the happy moments I cherish most are quiet moments.”

— Peter MacKay.

Quotes About Moments In Time

Time waits for nobody but you can make the most of it by creating amazing memories and moments! Here are some of the best quotes on great moments in time.

53. “The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, 'what is' what we want.”

— Byron Katie.

54. “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”

— Bruce Lee.

55. “Cherish all your happy moments; they make a fine cushion for old age.”

— Booth Tarkington.

56. “Don’t waste your time in anger, regrets, worries, and grudges. Life is too short to be unhappy.”

— Roy T. Bennett.

57. “Remember then: there is only one time that is important – Now! It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power.”

— Leo Tolstoy.

58. “Every moment, if properly utilized, has the potential to transcend space and time.”

― Haresh Sippy.

59. “The butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.”

— Rabindranath Tagore.

60. “Believe that when something is meant to be, it will happen. In God's time. At the right moment. For the best reason. With the right person.”

— Rita Zahara.

Defining Moments Quotes

Here are some of the best quotes that define the great moments in life that are inspirational and motivational.

61. “Don’t wait for the perfect moment, take the moment, and make it perfect.”

— Zoey Sayward.

62. “If you were conscious, that is to say totally present in the now, all negativity would dissolve almost instantly. It could not survive in your presence.”

63. “Use your precious moments to live life fully every single second of every single day.”

64. “You must collect moments. Those will be the true wealth of your soul.”

― Liviu C. Tudose.

65. “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

— George Bernard Shaw.

66. “If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you'll never enjoy the sunshine.”

— Morris West.

67. “Life is not measured by time. It is measured by moments.”

― Armin Houman.

68. “To encounter great moments, you must mostly be in motion!”

69. “The thing is I'm a great believer in the perfect moment. They don't come around that often.”

— Sarah Dessen.

Quiet Moments Quotes

Here are some great little moments quotes that you can refer to for calming yourself!

70. “Allow yourself to enjoy each moment in your life.”

71. “Live life for the moment because everything else is uncertain!”

— Louis Tomlinson.

72. “Enjoy every moment: you never know when things might change.”

— Natalie Imbruglia.

73. “Enjoy small moments as they come. At the end, that's what makes life worthwhile.”

― Nadun Lokuliyanage.

74. “Enjoy life while you can. It can be taken in a heart beat.”

― Jasmin Morin.

75. “How short the happy moments seem and how endless the sad ones.”

― Laura Chouette.

Happy Moments With Friends Quotes

A single rose can be my garden

Quotes about making and cherishing great moments in friendships that you can relate to are amazing.

76. “A single rose can be my garden… a single friend, my world.”

— Leo Buscaglia.

77. “Never forget the days I spent with you. Continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours.”

— Ludwig van Beethoven.

78. “I love having a good time, and I enjoy being able to share those good times with others.”

— Jacob Batalon.

79. “People aren't meant to be perfect. We're all imperfect people looking for perfect moments to share with other imperfect people.”

— Shaun Hutchinson.

80. “Nothing else matters except that I have fun, and I’m still having fun.”

— Quvenzhane Wallis.

81. “Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.”

Moments In Life Quotes

Moments in life shared with the important people around you are important. They are represented by these great quotes.

82. “The greatest moments in life are not concerned with selfish achievements but rather with the things we do for the people we love and esteem.”

— Walt Disney.

83. “Happiness is not the surplus of pleasant over unpleasant moments. Rather happiness consists in seeing one’s life in its entirety as meaningful and worthwhile.”

— Yuval Noah Harari.

84. “We have two lives: the one we learn with and the one we live after that.”

— Bernard Malamud.

85. “Every day is the world made new. Today is a new day. I have lived all my life up to this moment, to come to this day. This moment–this day–is as good as any moment in all eternity. I shall make of this day–each moment of this day–a heaven on earth. This is my day of opportunity.”

— Dan Custer.

86. “Moments – we all are made up of moments.”

― Aman Jassal.

87. “Life is measured in love and positive contributions and moments of grace.”

— Carly Fiorina .

88. “Life is short, and if we enjoy every moment of every day, then we will be happy no matter what happens or what changes along the way.”

— Gretchen Bleiler.

89. “Life is beautiful. Cherish every moment even if you're stressed or hurt or whatnot. There's always tomorrow and it always gets better.”

— Ariana Grande.

90. “Life is available only in the present moment. If you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your daily life deeply. ”

— Thich Nhat Hanh.

Funny Moments Quotes

Here are some of the best funny quotes that will get a chuckle or two out of you!

91. “Sometimes you just have to jump in a mud puddle because it’s there. Never get so old that you forget about having fun.”

― Tom Giaquinto.

92. “If the grass is greener on the other side it's probably getting better care.”

— Earl Nightingale .

93. “There will be moments when you have to be a grown-up. Those moments are tricks. Do not fall for them.”

— Jenny Lawson .

94. “The best moments in my life are just before going to bed. Those are my happiest moments.”

— Yohji Yamamoto.

95. “Even though you’re growing up, you should never stop having fun.”

— Nina Dobrev.

Family Moments Quotes

Appreciating family isn't enough even if we try our hardest. Here are some of the best quotes about moments that we share with family.

96. “Sticking with your family is what makes it a family.”

— Mitch Albom.

97. “Family isn’t blood. It’s the people who love you. The people who have your back.”

— Cassandra Clare.

98. “Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.”

— Michael J. Fox.

99. “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”

100. “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.”

— Desmond Tutu.

Here at Kidadl, we have carefully created lots of interesting family-friendly quotes for everyone to enjoy! If you liked our suggestions for moments quotes then why not take a look at be present quotes , and life is short quotes .

Rajnandini is an art lover and enthusiastically likes to spread her knowledge. With a Master of Arts in English, she has worked as a private tutor and, in the past few years, has moved into content writing for companies such as Writer's Zone. Trilingual Rajnandini has also published work in a supplement for 'The Telegraph', and had her poetry shortlisted in Poems4Peace, an international project. Outside work, her interests include music, movies, travel, philanthropy, writing her blog, and reading. She is fond of classic British literature.

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How To Be The Best Damn Listener You Can Be

You know the basics. But basics only get you so far. Here’s how to step up your game.

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Being a great listener is an essential quality in a good spouse. Chances are, you’re already pretty good at it. You know the basics: Don’t interrupt. Don’t offer unsolicited advice. Don’t try to fix stuff if your partner hasn’t asked you specifically for advice on fixing stuff.

But the basics only get you so far. There are ways to improve and your partner deserves more because of course they do. Yes, improving your listening skills takes time and energy, but it’s worth it for the health of your relationship. Besides, honing the skill will help you gain a better understanding of your spouse — and, you know, avoid arguments that come as a result of not listening. And isn’t that the goal? Here’s how to step up your game.

1. No, You Don’t Have To Be A Great Listener All Of The Time

You can interrupt. You can half listen. You can not listen, says Michael Nichols, professor of psychology at the College of William & Mary and author of The Lost Art of Listening . Not all conversations are the Super Bowl. They’re not even division rivalry games.

But you’re smart enough to sense when it matters. Your partner might make it easy by saying, “There’s something that’s been on my mind” or even easier with, “I need to talk.” Then you know it’s game time.

2. It’s Okay To Ask For A Moment.

Even though your spouse needs to talk, you know when you’re at. It’s within your rights to say, “I want to completely be there for you but can we do it in 20 minutes?” You’ve done all the good things — affirmed, validated, showed consideration, says Debra Roberts , a licensed social worker and author of The Relationship Protocol: How to Talk, Diffuse and Build Healthier Relationships . And it’s to your benefit. You need to be fully invested in listening, and, if you can’t be, it will be obvious, which will necessitate a different conversation about your inability to be present .

Most likely, the answer to a delay will be yes, and if it is, your job is to follow up and get back in 20 minutes, as you said you would, or it will feel like a blow-off, says Nancy Levin McGrath , a couples therapist in Brookline, Massachusetts. If the answer is no, then you’ll know that it must be important and the listening will commence right now.

But even then, you can set expectations. Ask up top if your spouse needs you to give advice or just listen. It shows gives your partner control and locks you into the right headspace. Even if you don’t ask at the outset, you can during. At a pause – and only at a pause – if you’re not sure what your partner wants, just ask, “What would help you most right now?” You’re reiterating your support and that your spouse’s agenda is all that matters, Roberts says.

3. Do What You Can To Not Get Defensive

When a person feels comfortable talking, that person starts opening up, and the topic could well be you. The information might not be positive. Take it. If your shoulders start to tighten and your face gets red, resist the urge to defend. Instead, ask, “Can you explain that a little more?” You don’t want to prematurely pop off, because, per Levin McGrath, “you don’t have enough information to decide if you’re being criticized.”

At the very least, asking a question slows down the pace so you can adjust to what’s being said, Robert says. But if all of that doesn’t work and you’re getting revved up, say so, and ask to take a 10-minute break. You might as well since you’ve already stopped listening. But again, that break better be 10 minutes. And you should re-engage the conversation.

4. You Don’t Need To Find The Best Words

Because there are none. Remember, though, listening is about your partner, not about showing how awesomely insightful you are, Nichols says. But there are good things to say – silence comes off as disinterest – and they’re all usually three words maximum with an exclamation point at the end, such as, “That sucks,” “Oh man,” “What a dick.” Your first job is to offer full-on support, not offering anyone else’s perspective to consider, Levin McGrath says. Echoing the feelings makes your partner feel like you’re right there in that moment, which is exactly the goal.

5. Understand That Listening Takes Effort

The following doesn’t necessarily make things easier, but it’s good to keep in mind. Listening is a lot like parenting. It takes effort. It doesn’t offer a lot of credit. It’s not about you. “That’s why most of us aren’t very good about it,” Nichols says. But it’s worth doing. For pure practicality, your spouse has a problem. It’s going to be there regardless, and it will simmer and come out at a later, less convenient time with resentment without attention.

But here’s the bigger thing. You’re going to have something bugging you at some point and will need to talk. It’s much easier for someone to invest the time and be genuinely interested in what you have to say when you’ve already done the same. It’s really pretty simple. “For people you care about, you want to give that to them,” Nichols says.

This article was originally published on Jan. 9, 2018

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The Home Depot brings a virtual twist to its popular Kids Workshop program.

This month: Good news for traditional brands, bad news for tech giants

No. 5: Swiss luxury watch brand unveils metaverse-ready timepiece

H. Moser & Cie., a luxury watch brand based in Switzerland, released a limited-edition watch that not only is decked out with Web3 capabilities but is also actually pretty cool. The timepiece, dubbed the “Endeavour Centre Seconds Genesis,” is engraved with a unique QR code that links to a series of digital services, including a special NFT of a video showing the last screw on the piece, e-warranty and KYC (“know your customer”) capabilities for those interested in secondary markets. While the watch was first announced in December, MSN this week wrote a profile that delved deep into its purpose and function.

#MoserGenesis A new customer experience right at your fingertips. The dedicated H. Moser & Cie. app ensures complete traceability and transparency, from certification to warranty and insurance, as well as customer services and access to exclusivities. https://t.co/gjpDR9jYHx pic.twitter.com/CF3NXERrkj — H. Moser & Cie (@HMoserCie) December 15, 2022

Owners of the watch will also receive a special access pass to Moser’s metaverse space, although it was not clear which platform it would be using. And even if all this Web3 mumbo jumbo doesn’t impress prospective buyers, its physical material just might: The case and crown are made from 3-D printed titanium, the QR code is engraved with safari crystal and the background is Vantablack, the darkest material on the market, absorbing 99.965% of all light.

If you want one, though, you better act fast. Moser only made 50 editions of the watch. Oh, and each costs €29,000, or just over $30,000.

No. 4: U.S. senators worried about teens in Meta's metaverse

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U.S. Senators are worried about Mark Zuckerberg's plans for the metaverse. In a letter sent to the Meta CEO, Senators Edward Markey (D-Mass.) and Richard Blumenthal (D-Conn.) urged Zuckerberg to halt Meta’s plans to allow kids aged 13 to 17 into its Horizon Worlds platform.

The letter invoked Meta’s poor track record in protecting children online, particularly teens, which has led to feelings of distrust from parents, pediatricians, policymakers and the general public. For instance, the company has reportedly been well aware of the damage its apps including Instagram cause teen girls , the Wall Street Journal reported in 2021, though such knowledge has inspired little change in how it conducts business.

“As our constituents grow increasingly concerned about the effects of online platforms and social media apps on teens’ well-being, your plans to imminently pull these young people into an under-researched, potentially dangerous virtual realm with consequences for their physical and mental health is unacceptable,” wrote the senators in the letter.

No. 3: Microsoft kills off industrial metaverse team

In more bad news for tech giants, Microsoft axed its entire team devoted to helping customers find industrial use cases for the metaverse. As The Information first reported  in February, the team was formed only four months ago, but now all roughly 100 employees are gone—a testament to how quickly the virtual space is fluctuating.

The layoffs were part of a sizable reduction at Microsoft in January, which saw cuts of 10,000 employees amid fallout from over-hiring at the start of the pandemic. The Industrial Metaverse Core Team was primarily tasked with building software for control systems behind power plants, robotics and transportation networks. Clients that interacted with the team included Coca-Cola, Unilever and Anheuser-Busch InBev.

The reduction is a sign that Microsoft is prioritizing other areas of its business as it attempts to rein in costs. Its recent $10 billion investment in OpenAI reveals a much different sentiment toward the burgeoning generative AI space . However, Microsoft claims that it has made no changes to its commitment to augmented and virtual reality, a spokesperson told The Information.

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No. 2: influential inks influencer marketing deal with the sandbox.

Influencer marketing agency Influential has cut a deal with The Sandbox to bring creators into experiences on the virtual platform. Influential will train its clientele on all things Sandbox and how to operate within the ecosystem. The agency will also run campaigns with Fortune 500 brands, for which creators will help drive audiences to The Sandbox via social promotions.

Influencer marketing has become a highly effective tactic for brands to target young consumers, but Web2 influencers have yet to make a strong impact on Web3. The collaboration between Influential and The Sandbox could change this, especially given the virtual platform’s roots in gaming. Web3 creators, however, have already experienced some pain in the world of crypto and NFTs, which could be a hurdle to even the more established influencers.

The partnership could also bring a much-needed presence to The Sandbox, which has yet to find its way into the mainstream. Reports last fall indicated astonishingly low daily activity on the platform, and while The Sandbox has tried to set the record straight, there is still a lack of clarity around just how many people it caters to. Despite this confusion, The Sandbox has deals in place with Warner Music Group, Adidas, Atari, Gucci Vault and Ubisoft.

No. 1: The Home Depot brings Kids Workshops to Roblox

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The Home Depot had this month’s top metaverse moment by bringing a virtual twist to its popular Kids Workshop program. A storefront in Roblox, identical in appearance to The Home Depot’s stores in IRL, allows kids to gather materials around the store and assemble projects of varying difficulty, from birdhouses to small cars. The Home Depot’s Kids Workshop program brings together 400,000 U.S. children each month to build projects with wood and paint.

“Our Virtual Kids Workshops offer the familiarity of The Home Depot—a weekend trip that many young people already experience with their families—and combines it with the discovery, problem solving and fun that Roblox is known for,” said Molly Battin, chief marketing officer at The Home Depot. The activation was built with agencies BBDO and IF7.

Other home improvement brands have used the metaverse as a space to take their business digital. Lowe’s launched a platform last summer for creators to use its tools in a virtual environment, and John Deere has utilized digital twinning, or creating a digital model of a physical one, to explore industrial efficiencies.

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When you need a restaurant to set the scene for another big act in the film called Your Life, here’s where to go.

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Some meals are about the company, others the food, and then there are some occasions that are, quite simply, all about you. The main character in a little script entitled Your Life. Only some restaurants can live up to this kind of narrative pressure, though. The kind of restaurants that understand that not every meal is run of the mill and not every person is made equal. When you need a restaurant to set the scene for another big act, here’s where to go.

Park Chinois

Outside of the vaguely Butlins-esque performers who croon and cavort around Park Chinois’ two floors, there is no one more important in this Mayfair restaurant than you. It’s impossible not to feel it, because it’s what everyone at this gargantuan, wannabe-glitzy but faintly grubby, Cantonese restaurant feels. Most surprising of all is that some of the food, particularly the £100-plus signature peking duck, is also fighting you to be the star of the show. Still, if you avoid the pumping club downstairs, the Disney-ish take on a regal red dining room above is the kind of silliness that can be leaned into.

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Bethnal Green

Ever since Bistrotheque opened in the early 2000s, people have flocked to its whitewashed, industrial chic room in the hope of one day becoming the subject of a five-sentence anonymous tip to Popbitch . The Bethnal Green restaurant has got it all: pleasant but secondary Mediterranean-leaning food, a canvas-like aesthetic for your new Shrimps coat, and perfect acoustics to reverberate what (and who) you did last night and how badly your head is pounding. The beauty of Bistrotheque, and what gives it its longevity, is that pretty much everyone in the room is doing the same thing. And the bloody marys are pretty good too.

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With Matisses and Picassos on the wall, Mount St. Restaurant is the kind of place to remind the world that the most prized work of art of all is you. Yes, you who recently found two loose McNuggets in your coat pocket. Not everything about this British restaurant in Mayfair is perfect, but that’s where you enter. Gliding around the terrazzo floor like it was created for yours truly, tucking into a lobster pie with a Lucian Freud hanging behind you, because that is the kind of life you lead—eating soufflé at midday on a Wednesday because you can. To your left there’s a disgraced MP, to your right there’s a Real Housewife Of Somewhere, and in the centre of everything… is you

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There’s something quite Guy Ritchie about Brigadiers. Not early, Vinnie Jones, ‘awight son’, era Ritchie. But the later, shinier, Hollywood stuff where there’s an inexplicable cameo from Jonah Hill as a Brooklyn-born fishmonger who sells to one of London’s best Indian restaurants. But the only problem is, he’s got into a bit of a (lime) pickle. The only way to sort this kind of thing out would be to lean into the ridiculousness of everything, which is exactly what Brigadiers does. The City restaurant has a whisky vending machine, a pool room, an oil painting of Maradona, and BBQ butter chicken wings so good that they deserve more than a cameo role in your meal.

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Hide, in Mayfair, is the kind of multi-million-pound restaurant you should go to if your main character moment is being Le Chiffre from Casino Royale . Do your best chic villain impression as you dab at your weeping eye with a 600-thread-count napkin, eat an eight-course tasting menu of modern European dishes that includes hand-picked crab in a lime leaf broth, and order a nebuchadnezzar to be sent to the hottest person in the room. Because that’s just how you roll. More of a Bond? Take the private lift up from the car park or ascend the insane, sweeping oak staircase for a suitably OTT entrance to this blow-out restaurant overlooking Green Park.

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The drama at British restaurant, Sessions Arts Club, begins with your glamorous, brass lift ride up to the dining room where you’ll be seated next to ornate columns and beside peekaboo arches. The walls of this Clerkenwell restaurant are distressed but gorgeous, just like you after waiting five months for this booking. There’s a grand piano, so many candles, and the bathrooms have the kind of individual hand towels people use to take off their Chanel concealer in Vogue skincare tutorials. All around you people wearing non-descript clothes that cost more than your average two-bed flat, and eating graceful forkfuls of lamb, champagne, and lovage, or blood orange sorbet underneath hanging chandeliers. 

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Bob Bob Ricard

Bob Bob Ricard is where to go big in Soho and overdo it on selfies and the Siberian caviar dégustation, but that’s OK because this is your moment. You want your own leather booth and a button that says “press for champagne”, and preferably gold ceilings and desserts with sparklers in them—just all round unforgettable, unnecessary opulence. For once you aren’t sitting on that weird, drafty table by the loo, you’re in an art deco fever dream that you never want to wake up from. But you will, probably with a hangover, because the last thing you remember is pouring champagne into your truffle pie like it was gravy while hitting that button for another glass. 

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We all remember the time a certain singer/songwriter got turned away from Sexy Fish for wearing a hoodie and The Daily Mail hired three new writers to cover the “story”, right? Well even if your brain doesn’t maintain useful information like that, the moral is that there will be no hoodies here. Because if this Asian fusion Mayfair restaurant was a person, it would be a big, over the top, naff one. Which is great news for you—it means all the paid extras (other diners) won’t ruin the background of your perfectly curated selfies with their Adam Sandler-esque wardrobes. While the food is mostly overpriced and underwhelming, it is, undeniably, a fun place to be. So embrace what feels like a Star Wars cantina brought to you by the producers of Love Island , try to avoid making eye contact with the naked mermaid sculptures, and make a grilled cheese toastie when you get home. 

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If you’ve felt like you were born in the wrong decade ever since you read The Great Gatsby in your GCSE English class, you need to spend an evening at Quaglino’s. A grand, jaw-dropper of a hall hidden beneath Bury Street in Mayfair, this place has been serving stylish debauchery and cocktails since 1929. There’s a sweeping amber staircase that you should descend slowly and ideally with your mate casually filming you from the bottom step (#candid), a live band performing the best of the Rat Pack, and big European brasserie classics with a handful of surprise twists à la avocado rolls thrown in. Sit down, start merrily toe tapping, get involved in a hefty £50 côte de boeuf, or just some nice little nibbles from that glowing bar. It’s time to party, baby.

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Does the TikTok 'no-spend' challenge work? Here's what you need to know

A financial planner weighs in on the social media trend..

For better or worse (and it's often the latter), more people are getting financial advice from social media. One new trend that's been spreading through TikTok — the "no-spend" challenge — prompts users to make a sudden, drastic lifestyle change to achieve a goal, whether it's paying down debt or building up savings . But the no-spend challenge can actually be counterproductive if you aren't careful.

CNBC Select breaks down the no-spend challenge and asks a financial planner about safer, more sustainable strategies you should use instead.

What is the no-spend challenge?

Those following this trendy budget try to go as long as possible without spending money on non-necessities, though purchases for essentials and bills are allowed. Users track their progress on a calendar, trying to rack up as many no-spend days as possible. Some of the purchases commonly forbidden during a no-spend challenge include:

Generally, no-spend budgets are most effective when money that isn't spent is moved directly to another account where it can earn you a high amount of interest, like a high-yield savings account . Some of the best ranked by CNBC Select include Marcus by Goldman Sachs High Yield Online Savings , which doesn't charge you any fees, and LendingClub's High-Yield Savings  account, which provides one of the highest APYs on the market and gives you easy access to your cash with a free ATM card.

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Use the no-spend challenge as a guide to make a budget instead

Kendall Meade, a financial planner at SoFi, says the no-spend trend could help people create better budgets.

"People realize when they're going through these no-spend times, 'what was I spending on that wasn't that important to me, what really doesn't affect my life?'" she says. "It can help them figure out what they can cut out moving forward."

Meade suggests the 50/30/20 budget for those who are new to budgeting. This budget method puts 50% of your income towards monthly expenses, like rent , car payments and other recurring expenses. About 30% goes towards things you want, and 20% goes towards savings and investments .

Meade notes that you can adjust the percentages of the budget based on your lifestyle and financial priorities. "It's not going to be those exact numbers for everybody." Some may need to add more to the recurring expenses category, especially those in high-cost-of-living areas.

Budgeting apps could also help create sustainable spending changes. CNBC Select's roundup of the best includes You Need A Budget , an app that can help users set goals and make sure every dollar is put to work, and Mint , which can sync with your accounts to help create and track goals.

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Watch out for revenge spending

While the no-spend trend can initially save you more money, it could also have the opposite effect in the long run.

"What I think is a big con for it is that it can cause what I call 'revenge spending,'" Meade says. "Sometimes I see that you actually end up spending more because you tried to cut out so much the week before."

In some cases, it can negate the progress you've made in the first place.

Instead, Meade suggests people use the no-spend trend as a prompt to rethink their habits . "What I think is actually a better way for most people is making little, sustainable changes," she says.

Use credit cards to maximize your spending

Even if you partake in the no-spend challenge, you'll still have some expenses you can't avoid. To make the most of these expenses and earn a return on your spending, you should pay with a rewards credit card whenever possible. For instance, you can use the Bilt Mastercard to earn points on rent payments (fee-free) and a grocery credit card like the Blue Cash Preferred® Card from American Express to earn bonus cash-back at supermarkets.

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While cutting out every non-essential expense in your life might work for a time, it probably isn't sustainable long-term.

"Instead of focusing on everything at once and cutting everything out, focus on those little changes," Meade says. "I find that people are more able to stick to that long-term."

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Cara Delevingne Talks About Substance Abuse and Entering 12-Step Program: 'I Was Not Okay'

The model and actress, who entered rehab last fall, is looking back on the struggle she faced last year in a new interview with vogue.

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Cara Delevingne is speaking out about getting help.

In an interview for the April cover of Vogue , the model and actress shared that she entered a 12-step program after paparazzi photos last year gave her an urgent wake-up call, explaining that her behavior was tied to the pandemic's effect and her milestone 30th birthday last August.

"I hadn't slept. I was not okay," she told the magazine. "It's heartbreaking because I thought I was having fun, but at some point it was like, 'Okay, I don't look well.' You know, sometimes you need a reality check, so in a way those pictures were something to be grateful for."

But just as Delevingne was celebrating her birthday alongside her wide circle of friends with an elaborate Alice in Wonderland -themed fête, her world was crumbling.

"I always kind of knew that things were going to have to be different in my 30s, because the way that I was living was not sustainable," she said. "I told myself, 'I should be having such a good time. I've got all my friends here. I need to be enjoying this.' "

She continued, "The house I was staying in had a tower and I would just kind of lock myself in it instead. I barely left the room. There was this need for change, but I was fighting it so much. I was welcoming in this new time but I was also grieving. It was like a funeral for my previous life, a goodbye to an era. And so I decided I was going to party as hard as I could because this was the end."

By the next month, the Only Murders in the Building alum said she realized she needed help if she was going to turn a new page on her life and career.

"From September, I just needed support," she said. "I needed to start reaching out. And my old friends I've known since I was 13, they all came over and we started crying. They looked at me and said, 'You deserve a chance to have joy.' "

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Delevingne soon entered rehab where she found an additional buttress thanks to a 12-step program.

"This process obviously has its ups and downs, but I've started realizing so much," the Carnival Row alum said. "People want my story to be this after-school special where I just say, 'Oh look, I was an addict, and now I'm sober and that's it.' And it's not as simple as that. It doesn't happen overnight…. Of course I want things to be instant — I think this generation especially, we want things to happen quickly — but I've had to dig deeper."

She added, "Before I was always into the quick fix of healing, going to a weeklong retreat or to a course for trauma, say, and that helped for a minute, but it didn't ever really get to the nitty-gritty, the deeper stuff. This time I realized that 12-step treatment was the best thing, and it was about not being ashamed of that. The community made a huge difference. The opposite of addiction is connection, and I really found that in 12-step."

If you or someone you know is struggling with substance abuse, please contact the SAMHSA helpline at 1-800-662-HELP.

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Alex Jones' rarely-seen daughter plays with dad Charlie in heartwarming moment

The one show presenter alex jones is a mum-of-three.

Alex Jones is a doting mum to sons Teddy, five, Kit, three , and daughter Annie , one.

Although the presenter doesn't often share snaps of her youngest child, on Thursday, she captured a magical moment between the young girl and father, Charlie Thomson . In an adorable snap, which melted the hearts of her Instagram followers, Annie played with her dollhouse with her father watching the proceedings. Annie looked so sweet bundled up in a onesie as she handed her dad one of the toys.

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"Slow morning playing house," Alex captioned the photo, adding a face surrounded by hearts emoji.

Annie had her brunette hair swept back, but the little tot also had a streak of blonde on display.

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Last month, the mum-of-three enjoyed the half-term break with her family, and she treated them to some sight-seeing in her native Wales.

In the snapshot, Alex could be seen flashing a huge smile as she posed in front of a castle with her brood and husband.

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Alex captured the sweet moment

Embracing the spring weather, little Annie looked so adorable in a butter-yellow dress and a vibrant royal blue puffer coat. Alex's youngest melted hearts as she sweetly gazed up at her siblings, all whilst holding hands with her brother, Teddy.

Captioning her photo, Alex penned: "We took them back to where it all started," followed by a bright red heart emoji.

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During the holidays, they also paid a special visit to Amgueddfa Cymru, otherwise known as the Museum of Wales.

Alongside a montage of insightful snapshots , the mum-of-three shared: "It might have been a cloudy old day but today I took the children to somewhere I loved going as a child and we had a great time. If you haven't been…go!!! So much to see. Such a unique experience!"

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I'm a friend of the royal family and grief expert. Here are 7 things I want everyone to know about grief.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Julia Samuel. It has been edited for length and clarity

People are always fascinated by my relationship with the royal family . I was friends with Princess Diana and have worked together with Prince William at Child Bereavement UK , a charity I founded to help children rebuild their lives after loss. More recently, I became the godmother of Prince George and may have helped Meghan Markle navigate her mental-health concerns, if you believe the papers .

My relationship with the royal family is personal and private, so I work to keep it that way. But through my work as a psychotherapist addressing grief, I know that everyone, royal or not, will experience grief during their lives. That's part of the fascination with the royals — people look at them and see their own experiences of loss.

Grief is universal, but we don't talk about it. I want to change that. That's why I wrote " Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death and Surviving ." Grief Works became a course, then an app, to help people heal. Here's what I want people to know about grief.

Grief stays with us

The biggest misconception about grief is that we can get over it. I believe we can heal, but we never fully leave grief behind. I like an analogy here: If we think of grief as a fluid, soon after a loss, it fills us entirely. But with time and guidance, we grow. Grief doesn't shrink, but it takes up a smaller amount of space within us.

Healing is work

I chose the name for my book because processing grief really is work. You've got to learn skills and move through emotions. It may be tempting to bottle things up and ignore them, but that will just make the work harder in the long run. 

You'll experience so many different emotions

Grief is one word, but we use it to refer to a whole universe of emotions. After a loss, you won't feel just sad. You'll feel furious, terrified, outraged, and frustrated, as well as grateful for the relationship. Sometimes you'll feel these conflicting emotions at once, which can make you think you've lost your mind. If you can break the emotions down and name each one, you're better able to understand and process them. 

It's OK to have moments of happiness

After a loss, it feels like the most direct connection to our loved one is the pain of our grief. If we laugh out loud or enjoy a day with friends, we might feel guilty for abandoning our loved one. Yet you don't have to prove your suffering. You can spend time with the pain of grief, but then compartmentalize it enough to get other tasks done. 

Relationships continue after death

When your parent or partner dies, your relationship with them doesn't end. The love you feel doesn't suddenly disappear. But the way you express it must change. Find new ways to connect with that person or their memory. This might be wearing a piece of jewelry, cooking a meal they loved, or visiting a tree you planted in their memory. 

Create a story around loss

Having a narrative with a beginning, middle, and end calms your system. After a loss, it's powerful to journal and create the story of your relationship with your loved one and their death. Even a story with holes can help you process. Over time, you can find more information to fill in the details. 

We need to talk about death

We all die. But none of us want to talk about it. So when it happens, our loved ones are thrown into a new world without a map. If you can have conversations about death long before it occurs, it makes the whole thing much less frightening. You won't hasten your loved one's death if you ask them about their final wishes — but you will make coping with logistics a little easier when the time comes. Guilt and what-ifs are the most painful part of grief. You can spare your loved ones from that by talking to them openly about your end-of-life wishes.

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    WAUKEE, Iowa ( KCCI ) — Friday night, Sue Usher did something she has done hundreds of times.

“We let the dog out to use the bathroom,” she said.

Moments later, she heard squealing and whimpering from her Waukee backyard. Her dog was attacked by coyotes.

“He was covered in blood,” Usher said of her 6-year-old Shih Tzu/Bichon Frise mix, Bear.

On the family’s home security video, they saw Bear was attacked by two coyotes.

“One coyote came from the front. And one coyote came from the back. They grabbed him by the neck and pulled him across the yard, ” Usher said.

The video also shows Bear apparently breaking free and running toward the front door. Usher was told it is a miracle her dog is still breathing.

“He had several places in his neck he was bitten. And bites all over him and stitches in several places,” Usher said.

She knows recovery will take a long time.

“He’s been in a lot of shock,” Usher said. “He goes outside and kind of looks around. He’s just so afraid to go out there now.”

Usher hopes others will learn from the attack on her dog. She said they have invisible fencing that keeps Bear in the yard. However, it does not keep coyotes out.

Usher is thinking it may be time to build a physical fence.

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Have an iPhone? Then you need this smart lock in your life


The Level Lock+ discreetly conceals its smart module in a sleek deadbolt.

I've had the fortune of testing several smart lock brands and models and, through all the ups and downs of that process, have finally found the one for me. 

The Level Lock+ is one of only two smart locks in the US market that supports Apple Home Key . This makes the Level Lock+ an absolutely seamless fit for a  HomeKit smart home , like mine, and the single most convenient smart lock I've tested to date.

Also:  The best home security systems

Smarts aside, a lot of the beauty in the Level Lock+ lies beneath the surface. This is one of the most compact smart locks available, with no built-in keypad or visible indication of it being a smart device; all you see is a deadbolt from the outside and a thumb-turn from inside your home.


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What lies within the level lock+.

The Level Lock+ is an impressive piece of engineering given its small size. Many consumer-grade, smart home locks are bulky and imposing, while the Level Lock condenses its entire apparatus, including its CR2 battery, into the cam slot mechanism of your door's borehole.


Everything that comes in the box with the Level Lock+.

Still, installing locks is not always a one-size-fits-all experience. The Level Lock+ wasn't the easiest smart lock I've ever installed. I had a few issues making sure the deadbolt assembly was aligned correctly and with the Level Lock's thick strike plate after removing my existing lock, and I had to chisel out a few extra millimeters in my door and door frame to get the right fit. After installing the new smart lock and adding the included battery, however, setting up the Level Home app was a breeze. 

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The Level Lock+ uses Bluetooth and Wi-Fi to connect to your phone and comes in two finishes: Satin Nickel and Matte Black. It also includes two physical keys and two key cards, just in case your phone dies. The latter must be set up in the Level Home app and also use NFC technology, so anyone that uses a key card can hold it up to the smart lock and wait for it to unlock.

What is Apple Home Key?

Home Key allows iPhone users to unlock their door using near-field communication (NFC) technology, so simply holding your iPhone or Apple Watch up to your Level Lock+ will unlock it; no passcode, physical key, or touching is required. This is much like  using Apple Pay , as your virtual house key is saved in your Wallet, like your debit and credit cards, government IDs in some states, loyalty cards, and, if Apple has its way,  eventually your Car Key .  


Apple Home Key unlocks your door for you.

After adding your Home Key-supported smart lock to HomeKit, you can choose from two options: Express mode to unlock the door without unlocking your device; or Require Face ID or Passcode, which has you unlock your iPhone to undo your lock after holding it close to it. 

Apple Home Key works with iPhone XS or newer (with iOS 15 or later), and the Apple Watch Series 4 or newer (with WatchOS 8 or later).

Express mode has been my favorite of the unlock features supported by Apple Home Key. I don't always like having my door automatically unlock when I arrive home because I don't always go through my front door when I get home -- most of the time I come in through the garage. 

Having the option of quickly unlocking my front door using my Apple Watch, without entering a code or using a key, has been superb, especially when my hands are full with grocery bags or kids' backpacks.


Level Lock+ being unlocked with an Apple Watch.

It's a big deal finding a great smart lock that works natively with Apple HomeKit, which is the tech company's notoriously exclusive home automation system. HomeKit behaves like a walled garden in the smart home world, as Apple is restrictive with which products are able to meet its privacy and security standards. Protecting customers' data is laudable, but this results in few smart devices available on the market that work with HomeKit.

Don't get me wrong, I've always used my Yale Assure locks with HomeKit and loved them, but I just hadn't taken the leap to get a smart lock with Home Key support. 

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There are only two other smart locks that currently support HomeKey: The Schlage Encode Plus and the Aqara A100 , which isn't available within the US. 

Level app or Apple Home?


The Level Lock+ as it sits on my old door.

After installing the Level Lock+, you can use it either with the Level app or your Apple Home app. Personally, I've enjoyed how intuitive the Level app is to navigate and have found the Home app to be slower to refresh and discover devices (in general, not just with this smart lock), so I mostly use the former.

Like most smart locks, you can set up and customize different auto lock and auto unlock features, Apple Home automations, and different settings for manually locking and unlocking the Level Lock. Because there is no keypad to unlock the door, the Level Lock features touch to unlock or lock settings. Once you customize and enable these in the Level app, you can touch the front of the door lock to either lock it or unlock it in just a few seconds.


Using a key card to unlock the Level Lock+.

The touch to unlock and lock feature only works within a set timeframe of engaging the lock, to prevent unlawful entry or break-ins. This means you set a timeframe of a few minutes in which your Level Lock+ will lock or unlock when you touch it. 

Also: Yes, you can auto-unlock your smart lock with HomeKit. Here's the workaround

There's also the option of buying a Level keypad , which is sold separately, to add to your Level Lock.

Bottom line

The Level Lock+ is a remarkable piece of technology for Apple users. I've found it to be unwaveringly reliable when used with Apple Home Key, the Level app, or on its own. The only two drawbacks I've encountered are my strike plate and fit woes and, in everyday use, trying to lock and unlock it from within the Apple Home app. Having been a consistent HomeKit user for over a year, though, I can assure you this is the case with many devices in the Home app, so I can't fault Level for it. 


The two largest advantages the Level Lock+ has over other smart locks are the Home Key support in the Wallet app and the fact that it's compact and discreet enough to pass for a standard deadbolt -- which is a plus for anyone looking to maintain a certain aesthetic or a renter. 

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Obviously, if you're looking for a lock with a compatible smart home platform other than Apple HomeKit, this Level Lock+, at $329, is probably not the one for you. 


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‘You’ Season 4 Part 2 Ending Explained: Joe’s Full Circle Moment, [Spoiler]’s Return & More

Part 2 of 'You' season 4 took the concept of twists to a whole new level. Let's break down all the major moments of season 4's ending. Spoilers ahead!

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Joe Goldberg has managed to find a way to evade consequences  again . Netflix dropped the second part of You season 4 on March 9, giving fans the last 5 episodes of the season. The back half of season 4 flipped everything you thought about Part 1 on its head and ended with Joe returning to New York City.

So, what happened at the end of You season 4? What did that final moment mean? Here is the You season 4 part 2 ending explained.

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You Season 4 Finale Explained

The season 4 finale starts with Joe believing that Marienne is dead after he’d held her captive in a cage when his consciousness split in two. He leaves her body in the park to be discovered by a passerby. When Nadia takes Ethan to show him Joe’s lair, the cage is gone.

Joe mulls over ending his life until Kate calls him for help. Kate believes that her father is responsible for the real Rhys Montrose’s death. Kate cries over how her father has so much control over her life. Joe comes around to Rhys’ (the one in his head) idea that Tom Lockwood needs to die.

Killing Tom is a simple task for Joe. He confronts Tom at his workshop, kills Tom’s bodyguard, and then Tom. He then frames the bodyguard for Tom’s murder.

After taking care of Tom, Joe remembers Love’s words and believes he can only make Kate safe by killing himself. Rhys attempts to convince Joe that death is not the answer. Joe believes that he’ll just end up killing Kate as he did with Guinevere and Love . Joe throws Rhys over the bridge, believing that he’s cutting off that dark part of his consciousness for good. Joe leaps from the bridge but survives the fall.

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Meanwhile, Nadia and Ethan are compiling all the evidence they need to go after Joe. Nadia finally reveals to Ethan what really happened to Marienne. Nadia and Marienne came together to try and kill Joe. They were going to knock him out with ketamine, and then Marienne would kill him.

They also had a Plan B in case their original plan went wrong. Marienne had beta blockers that she would take, which would slow her heart rate down and make it seem like she was dead. When Nadia got arrested, Marienne had to go through with the second plan. Nadia managed to track Joe as he dumped Marienne’s body and administered adrenaline that would wake Marienne up.

Joe wakes up in the hospital after his jump. He admits to Kate that he intentionally jumped. He also reveals that he’s killed people, but he doesn’t specify who. Kate tells Joe that Tom is dead, and he’s left her everything. She points out that DNA was found on Rhys’ body but the tests are inconclusive. She knows that is Joe’s DNA. Kate makes Joe vow that they “keep each other good.” They’ll move forward together as a team, an unbreakable unit.

Marienne Escapes & Rhys Returns

After snooping through Joe’s apartment, she finds all the evidence she needs to take down Joe. On her way out, Joe confronts her. He says that he now has “substantial resources” at his disposal. He’s already killed Eddie, and he frames Nadia for his murder. The narrative that Joe creates is that Nadia killed Eddie after she discovered that he’d killed Rhys. Even though Nadia goes to prison for Eddie’s death, she doesn’t tell Joe that Marienne is alive.

Joe still has no idea that Marienne is still alive. Marienne gets her happy ending and reunites with her daughter. When she stumbles upon a story about Joe and Kate’s “second chance,” she has a look of disgust on her face.

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Joe and Kate move to New York City to start their new life with little Henry. They have unlimited means now and the ability to cover up any problem that stands in their way. When Joe looks out the window at Central Park, he sees Rhys again in the reflection. Try as he might, the darkness in Joe didn’t evaporate when he jumped. It’s still lurking underneath his skin. As he’s proven time and time again, Joe always reverts back to his old ways. Kate better watch out.

Joe being back in New York City is a full-circle moment for the character. Upon his return to Big Apple, Joe cuts his hair and shaves his beard. He looks eerily similar to how he looked back in season 1 when his story first began. Now that he’s back where he started, could his story come to a close with a fifth season ? Time will tell!

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It is a critical moment for Emmanuel Macron

Fench Force Ouvriere (FO) workers' union members hold a burning flare during a demonstration in Lille, northern France, on March 7, 2023, as part of a nationwide day of strikes and protests called by unions over the government's proposed pensions reform. - Fuel deliveries and public transport were severely disrupted in France on March 7 as unions kicked off a fresh day of protest against a pensions reform that would push back the retirement age for millions. Unions have vowed to bring the country to a standstill with strikes over the proposed changes, which include raising the minimum retirement age to 64 from 62 and increasing the number of years people have to make contributions for a full pension. (Photo by Sameer Al-Doumy / AFP) (Photo by SAMEER AL-DOUMY/AFP via Getty Images)

E mmanuel Macron swept to power in 2017 on the back of a twin promise: to shake up France, and embolden Europe to act as a more muscular power. The French president’s first term had its ups and downs, but France today is broadly a more vigorous place, more enterprising, job-creating and welcoming to investors. The European Union, too, has moved in Mr Macron’s direction. Russia’s savage war on Ukraine has shown that a fractious rules-based club of 27 members can hold together, think geopolitically and export weaponry into a war zone.

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Now, though, Mr Macron faces trouble on both fronts. His authority is being tested in the National Assembly and on the streets at home, and his leadership challenged abroad . How he responds will determine whether the leader of the eu ’s second-biggest economy and foremost military power can keep modernising France and shaping Europe.

Mr Macron’s domestic woes concern his plan to raise the minimum pension age from 62 to 64. The French live almost a decade longer than in 1980, and spend longer in their deckchairs than their neighbours. Without reform, the pension system faces an annual deficit of €14bn ($15bn) by 2030. But Mr Macron has failed to persuade the French that his fix is the right one. Last year voters denied him a majority in parliament. Now unions want to defeat his project on the streets .

This pension reform is necessary for France. Mr Macron needs to do a better job of explaining why it is not just an accounting tool, but part of a wider effort to get the French to work more, and more of the French to work. The unemployment rate stood at 7.2% in the most recent quarter, roughly twice the rate in America and Britain. The last time it was as low as 5% was in the 1970s. His government also needs to take on the opposition parties’ claim to have a better solution that entails more taxes on companies and the rich. That is the last thing France needs. Despite Mr Macron’s tax cuts, France is still the most highly taxed economy in the euro zone. Hence, even if painful strikes drag on, the president cannot afford to back down.

If Mr Macron cannot secure parliamentary support before the deadline of March 26th, he could still force the reform through. But that would be best avoided. Left-wing opposition parties have repeatedly sought to create havoc and derail parliamentary procedure. They would seize any chance to declare the reform illegitimate. The centre-right opposition has behaved dishonourably too, reluctant to back a change that, in 1995 and 2010, it also proposed. It has no excuse for not supporting the reform.

Abroad, Russia’s war on Ukraine has in many ways vindicated Mr Macron’s call for a stronger eu , squeezed between America and China, which can assert itself with hard force, not just trade and rules. Yet Mr Macron is struggling to persuade his allies that his policies, notably on European security, are the best way to achieve this. He is not leading the debate over Ukraine. And in Africa he is losing influence to China, Russia and Turkey.

If Mr Macron is to revive his eu leadership, he would do well to spend less time musing out loud about the future contours of a post-war settlement, and more crafting closer ties to countries, including Poland and the Baltics, which still suspect him of wanting to press Ukraine prematurely into talks. Having at first focused on its diplomacy with Russia, France has swung firmly behind Ukraine. Its position now is close to America’s. Yet Mr Macron is too often tempted to voice ideas that America may share, but keeps to itself. France could also do more to send heavy weaponry to Kyiv, and fast.

A more robust Europe, faced with the threat from autocratic powers and the risk of excessive reliance on America, needs a strong France. Mr Macron is now one of Europe’s most experienced leaders. He brims with ideas, many of them good, and commands a fine diplomatic machine. This is a critical moment. He cannot afford to get it wrong. ■

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Redman Reveals De La Soul Moment That Makes Him 'Lose [His] Fucking Mind'

Redman has revealed the De La Soul moment that blew his mind, and it involves the trio’s MF Doom -assisted track “Rock Co.Kaine Flow.”

Redman’s comments were made as part of a series of De La Soul tributes that premiered at the group’s “D.A.I.S.Y. Experience” event in New York City last week, which commemorated both their back catalog finally arriving on streaming and the recent passing of Trugoy The Dove.

Executive produced by Questlove, De La Soul, Grace Harry and Reservoir Media — the company behind the group’s streaming release — the series paid homage to the cultural impact of the group, with additional tributes coming from Chris Rock, Chuck D, Prince Paul and others.

“Ay Redman in the building, shout out to De La Soul, shout out to my brother Dave Trugoy we gonna miss you my brother rest in power,” Redman began his tribute. “Now if you never been to a De La Soul show you done missed out.

“Now there’s one part of the show that they know I love it’s the song that they did with MF Doom ‘Rock Co.Kaine Flow,’ and when they do that set I lose my fucking mind. Because Dave he be like, ‘one more time put your muthafuckin’ hands up!’ and they just freeze. They like God’s up there on the stage and I lose my fucking mind.”

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“WELCOME HOME DAVE!!” Redman wrote. “GOD is So AMAZING to Welcome You Home! Prayers and Condolences to the Family. DE LA SOUL FOREVER !!”

WELCOME HOME DAVE !! GOD is So AMAZING to Welcome You Home ! Prayers and Condolences to the Family. DE LA SOUL FOREVER !! pic.twitter.com/pyaNxGhonh — Redman (@therealredman) February 13, 2023

Elsewhere in the tribute, Chris Rock took a moment to shout out his favorite De La Soul track “In The Woods,” and rehashed a lyric that he’s continued to live his life by.

“My favorite De La album is Buhloone Mindstate ,” Rock said. “To me, there’s two De La’s. There’s De La and De La with Prince Paul, and the Prince Paul records are just fucking better. They’re hysterical. They’re better than  In Living Color , they’re better than  The Chris Rock Show , they go toe-to-toe with  Chappelle’s Show . Everything De La did with Prince Paul is just fucking amazing.

“ ‘Catch me breathing on the planes where the gangsta’s outdated/ Fuck being hard Posdnuos is complicated.’  Literally, that rhyme is how I live my muthafuckin’ life!”

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The latter two ran through their 1989 collab “Ladies First,” while Common performed his 2000 hit “The Light” before kicking a De La-inspired freestyle and trading bars with Kweli.

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What you need to know about President Biden’s new budget

President Biden, in a blue suit and sunglasses, waves.

President Biden unveiled a $6.8-trillion budget blueprint on Thursday. The plan includes new tax increases on wealthy Americans and corporations that are designed to offset new spending on social programs and trim the federal deficit by nearly $3 trillion over the next decade.

Here’s what you need to know.

Will this plan become law?

The plan has little chance of passing a divided Congress.

If this plan is unlikely to become law, why does it matter?

The president’s budget is a statement of his values and priorities. By presenting a plan that includes tax increases on the wealthy as well as some spending increases, he is setting the stage for months of negotiations with Republicans, who have demanded deep spending cuts in exchange for their cooperation to raise the nation’s federal borrowing limit.

Lawmakers need to reach a deal on raising the debt limit this summer in order to avoid the U.S. defaulting on its debt payments, which could trigger a global economic crisis.

Biden, who is widely expected to announce his 2024 reelection bid in the coming weeks, announced his plan for the next fiscal year in Pennsylvania, a critical battleground state. The budget also doubles as a political messaging document for Biden, who is looking to sharpen a contrast with Republicans over fiscal responsibility.

The president wants the country’s wealthiest to foot most of the bill, an unmistakable preview of a populist reelection pitch.

“My budget reflects what we can do to lift the burden on hardworking Americans,” he told a crowd of union workers at the Finishing Trades Institute in Philadelphia. He vowed his plan would also “generate economic growth.”

What are Republicans saying?

House Speaker Kevin McCarthy (R-Bakersfield), who is leading talks with Biden over raising the debt ceiling, called the budget “completely unserious” in a tweet .

Other congressional Republicans quickly dismissed Biden’s budget blueprint, signaling a tough fiscal showdown as the two parties hash out differences over spending cuts and raising the federal debt ceiling.

Sen. Charles E. Grassley (R-Iowa), the top Republican on the budget committee, slammed Biden for “reckless taxes and out-of-control spending,” calling the plan a “roadmap to fiscal ruin.”

But Republicans have yet to release their own budget proposal, which Biden noted during his remarks in Philadelphia.

“I’m ready to meet with the [House] speaker any time,” he said. “Tomorrow — if he has his budget.”

What’s in Biden’s budget, anyway?

High earners would pay higher taxes under Biden’s proposed budget. The budget includes $5.5 trillion in proposed taxes on wealthy Americans and corporations over the next 10 years.

For the record:

1:14 p.m. March 9, 2023 An earlier version of this article incorrectly stated that the current top marginal federal tax rate on income is 20%. It is 37%.

The president’s plan would repeal some of the 2017 tax cuts signed into law by former President Trump. It would restore the top marginal tax rate to 39.6% (the current rate is 37%) on single filers making above $400,000 and married couples making more than $450,000. For households worth more than $1 million, capital gains would be taxed at the same rate as their wage income. The plan would also raise the corporate tax rate from 21% to 28%.

Biden’s so-called billionaire tax would impose a 25% minimum income tax on the wealthiest 0.01% of Americans, a significant increase from the 20% minimum tax on multimillionaires and billionaires that he floated last year.

The president also wants to quadruple a new excise tax on corporate stock buybacks under the new plan. Biden’s Inflation Reduction Act requires companies to pay a 1% excise tax on purchases of their own stock to discourage them from using a maneuver that steers profits to their shareholders and boosts the stock price.

The budget would raise more federal revenue by ending lucrative tax breaks for oil and gas companies, which would total $31 billion in savings, according to the White House. It also claims to save $19 billion by halting a special tax subsidy for real estate investors.

Taxing the rich to fund Medicare Biden wants to extend the solvency of Medicare by 25 years by raising tax rates on people earning more than $400,000 a year. The Medicare tax rate would increase from 3.8% to 5% on earned and unearned income for the wealthy. The Medicare trust fund, which is paid for by payroll taxes, is projected to run out in 2028 under current tax and spending levels.

The plan also proposes capping the price of certain prescriptions to $2 per month for Medicare recipients, including generic drugs used to treat chronic conditions such as high cholesterol and hypertension. Biden also wants to expand Medicare’s ability to negotiate lowering the cost for prescription drugs, which the White House said will cut federal spending by $160 billion over a decade.

No changes to Social Security

The White House said it was committed to strengthening Social Security but did not detail a solvency plan similar to the Medicare proposal. It instead allocated $1.4 billion (a 10% increase) to improve on the agency’s staff and technology. Changes to Social Security are “not on the table,” Shalanda Young, director of the White House Office of Management and Budget, told reporters in a call previewing the plan on Thursday.

Biden has excoriated Republicans over Medicare and Social Security in recent months, citing a Republican senator’s 2022 call to sunset all federal programs every five years. Republican leaders have said in recent weeks that the two popular entitlement programs are off the table when it comes to slashing spending, but have yet to offer a plan of where they expect the cuts. Social Security and Medicare comprise a large portion of the federal budget due to the nation’s aging population and increasing healthcare costs.

A bigger child tax credit

The president revived his pitch for family-focused and “care economy” policies that were core tenets of his initial Build Back Better plan but failed to win enough support to clear a Democratic-controlled Congress during his first two years in office.

He called for restoring the enhanced Child Tax Credit, which cut poverty nearly in half when lawmakers gave the payment a pandemic-related boost in 2021. Biden wants to expand the credit from $2,000 per child to $3,000 per child for children 6 and older and up to $3,600 for children under 6. He also called for making the Earned Income Tax Credit expansion for childless workers permanent.

A blond woman plays with two children in swings on a porch of a home.

You’re not getting child tax credit checks anymore. Here’s why

The bipartisan program lifted 4 million children out of poverty and decreased food insecurity. But as the pandemic receded, so did its chances of survival.

Biden proposed making permanent the expanded subsidies for people buying their own health coverage on the Affordable Care Act marketplaces, which were extended through 2025 in the Inflation Reduction Act.

He is also asking Congress to support up to 12 weeks for a national paid medical leave program, $400 billion in childcare subsidies, and $300 billion for universal pre-kindergarten and expanding free community college. The budget allocates $150 billion over 10 years to improve and expand Medicaid home and community-based services and $100 billion in funding and tax incentives aimed at increasing the affordable housing supply.

More border agents and more money for the military

The president is requesting a defense budget of $842 billion in the fiscal year of 2024, a 3.2% increase from fiscal year 2024 that includes $6 billion for continued support to Ukraine. The budget also allocates $25 billion for U.S. Customs and Border Protection and Immigration and Customs Enforcement and $535 million for border technology at and between ports of entry. It also includes funding to hire an additional 350 border agents.

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